Noire Expose'

You can't tell a man everything. I'm learning this concept, don't fully agree with it, but I understand it. I'm the type of female where I can share to much information, especially when it comes to my feelings. It's not a bad thing, but when it comes to dealing with men, it can be. Should you be able to go to your man and pour out your heart to him and have him receive it, yes, however you should be wise when you do it, and understand the type of man that you have.

I can't tell the guy that I deal with everything that is on my heart, because he can't handle it. He either wants to fix it or tell me to get over it, or that I shouldn't think like that, and I absolutely hate that. Now there are times when I do need to be checked and told when I am wrong, but sometimes I just need him to listen or be that shoulder to lean on when I need some emotional support. I love him and I know he loves me (when we have our good days lol) but I can not and should not tell him everything. He doesn't understand me and my needs as a female fully and therefore I can not get what I need from him.

Now that is where God is able to step in and be what I need when I need it. God is sensitive enough to know what I need as a woman, sometimes that is a hard slap, sometimes it's an ear, and sometimes it's a soft word. I love that about God. He understands me even when I don't understand myself. He has knowledge and understanding of me (he should, he did create me lol) and the ultimate wisdom to deal with EVERYTHING and ANYTHING that I bring to him.
Ladies, we (yes I am too guitly of this) need to stop looking for the men in our life to be what God should be in our lives. Bring your cares and worries before him and he will supply all your needs.

Ladies we can never change men, they have to want to change and want to understand the female that they are dealing with. Ladies we can change ourselves though. Does that suck that we have to change and our men might remain the same, YES!!!! O well, life isn't fair. In due time however a true man will learn how to understand and deal with his woman, it takes time and it takes him wanting to do it, we can't force it on him (learned that lesson too the hard way). When the time is right he will want her to share the matters of her heart and he will be able to use wisdom on how to handle the situation, whether that is to talk, listen, or fix. It will all work itself out.

Happy New Year!!!